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Overview

The greatest fears I had during my grieving was that I was losing control, going crazy, and might make decisions that would harm me, my family, and my friends. This included suicidal thoughts which scared the hell out of me. I was desperate to find answers. Quickly, I found those answers would be hard to find, as resources for widowers are minimal and often of dubious value.

In Widower to Widower, I've compiled the most vital information I could find on the widower experience into one book, so the reader does not have to search as hard as I had to do. I include many critical issues not addressed in other publications. This can be raw and brutal at times, much like the grieving process itself.

Widower to Widower is woven around blogs I wrote during and after my wife's passing. This storytelling element allows the reader to be in the moment with me during the grieving experience, and to see that their own experience is not uncommon.

As I've learned from hundreds of fellow widowers, mine was not a unique journey but was similar, in many respects, to their journey as well. I am the expert only on my own experience. Each widower's experience is unique, but there are common threads and shared experiences. We must each find our own path while learning what we can from each other.

This second edition includes 60 additional pages of research, insights, resources, and a men's grief group guide. Reader testimonies are included in the first two pages of this 2^nd edition.

For more information go to: www.fredcolby.com

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781732115941
Publisher:	Front Range Press
Publication date:	07/31/2021
Edition description:	2nd ed.
Pages:	318
Sales rank:	316,323
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.67(d)

About the Author

Fred Colby has served as a director, board member and consultant for nonprofit organizations in California and Colorado. After his wife, Theresa, died in 2015 Fred shifted his focus to writing and leadership roles to help his fellow widowers heal and re-engage with life. He co-founded the Pathways Hospice Men's Grief Group and an online grief group. In addition to his book, he has written hundreds of blogs and articles, appeared on radio interviews and podcasts, and in AARP Magazine's online publication. He resides in Ft. Collins, Colorado. For more information go to: fredcolby.com

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

SECTION 1 - PREPARING FOR WIFE'S PASSING

Chapter 1: My Introduction to Grief

Chapter 2: Illness & Death

Role of Hospice

How to use the Caring Bridge Website

Creating Memorials to Your Wife

Some Tips for You and Family

The Passing of Your Wife

SECTION 2 - COPING WITH DEEP GRIEVING

Chapter 3: The Aftermath - What Now?

Immediate Impact on Me and Family

Including Children in Decisions and Tasks

Sharing with Friends and Family

Accepting Help and Including Others

Continuing as Father and New Role as Ma/Grandma

Taking Time to Grieve

Celebration of Life/Funeral Service

Post Celebration - What Now?

Avoiding Major Decisions for a Year

Chapter 4: Coping with Grief

Physical Pain

Crying and Sobbing - Dry Heaves of Crying

Craving for Wife's Embrace and Lovemaking

Shutting Others Out

Trip to Temporary Solitude & Its Benefits

Temptation of Alcohol and Drugs

Suicidal Thoughts, Fear of Death and Building Resilience

When Parents Outlive Your Wife

Does a Lengthy Illness Reduce Deep Grieving?

Chapter 5: Counseling - When and Why

Why Counseling is Important

Where to Go for Counseling

Talented Women Therapists Can Help You

Chapter 6: Grieving - How Men Differ from Women

Can I Live Again

Dealing with Crushing Loneliness

Sex Drive or Lack of It - What Does it Mean

When Does Deep Grieving End

Activity and Tasks as Self-Therapy

How You Remember Your Wife

Revisiting Old Memories, Places & People

Surviving Anniversaries and Birthdays

Expressing Your Grief in New Ways

Revisiting the Past

Losing Your Memories and Images

Holidays - Landmines on Path to Recovery

Life After First 6 Months and Holidays

Can I Love Again? And On Welcoming Death

Learning to Live Alone - Truth or Bullshit?

Setbacks and Continuing Rollercoaster

Getting to a Happier Healthier Place

SECTION 3 - AFTER DEEP GRIEVING

Chapter 7: It Will Never Be the Same Again

Chapter 8: Building New Relationships

Dating Tips for Widowers

Chapter 9: Sharing Your Life With Two Women

Chapter 10: Some Closing Thoughts

ENDNOTES

REFERENCES

FORMING YOUR OWN GRIEF GROUP

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Editorial Reviews

"This new book is now ... on the National Widowers Organization website... reflects the first hand input of a widower combined with scientific research to put things into perspective. It offers insights and recommendations that can only come from someone who has been there." National Widower's Organization
"Fred Colby's book, Widower to Widower, shares his experiences as he navigates the grief process following the death of his wife. With a straight-forward voice and clear writing style, Fred provides insight from his personal journey to provide education, understanding and comfort to other men who are grieving. This book is an essential tool for grief counselors as well as their male clients." Mia Towbin, MS, LMFT - Grief Counselor.
"For any man who has suffered, either recently or not so recently, the death of his beloved wife, Fred Colby's book is essential reading. As a fellow widower, I give this book my highest recommendation." Robert Devereaux, Widower, Writer, Actor

WRITER'S DIGEST 7^TH Annual Writer's Digest Self-Published Ebook Reviews

"The writer tackles a very sensitive subject (the death of a spouse or longtime partner) with emotion, thought and kindness....

The writing is very well done. He mixes in his own personal experiences but also shares ideas on how the reader could have approached the same situations in a different manner. He doesn't come across as preachy, which happens in a lot of self-help books, but instead the text reads as a sincere approach by someone who wants to help.

An interesting part of the text are the Caring Bridge entries, which show... a "realtime" look into the circumstances, helping the reader gain a better understanding of the experience he will soon share.

The text is filled with helpful advice, such as making sure to allow grandchildren an opportunity to say goodbye and including adult children in major decisions involving care and the aftermath.

... This approach from the widower's point of view is well done. He breaks down many of the barriers men put up for themselves during the grieving process and lets them understand how to move forward without the accompanying guilt. He unabashedly shares intimate details of his personal struggles to let other men experiencing these same issues know they are not alone."

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