Table of Contents
Introduction ix
Part I Single Mom 2.0
What Is a Kickass Single Mom? 3
The Kickass Single Mom Manifesto 8
Your Single Mom Identity 11
A Breakdown of Single Mom Monikers 16
Single Mom Support Network 19
Single Mom Self-Care 28
Part II Money
Single Mom Money Management 35
The SAHM Fantasy That Holds Women Back 40
Identify Your Money Mind-Set 49
The Kickass Single Mom Money Rules 53
Outsourcing = the Secret Formula for Single Mom Success 63
Build a Lifestyle You Can Afford-Today 71
Quick and Dirty Kickass Single Mom Budget 74
Get Out of Debt for Good 80
Superhigh Priority: Your Credit Score 84
The House 90
Commit to Frugality 96
Estate Planning for Single Moms 100
College Saving for Single Moms 105
College Financial Aid for Students with Divorced or Separated Parents 111
Retirement Savings for Single Moms 114
On Alimony and Child Support 120
Good Guys Like Women Who Are Financially Independent 140
When You Pay Child Support or Alimony 142
Part III Parenting
Parenting and the Single Mom 153
The Argument for Equally Shared Parenting 159
How to Parent Without a Father 167
For Single Mothers by Choice, "Who Is My Dad?" 171
Co-Parent Life a pro 173
Your Relationship with Your Ex's New Girlfriend 181
When You Should Meet the New Girlfriend (and Your Ex Meet Your New Boo) 183
Finding Your Parenting Style 186
Part IV Dating
A Sexually Satisfied Mom Is a Happier Mom 206
Why Dating as a Single Mom Is So Much Better Than Before 211
If You're Stuck and Not Dating 217
A Date, Defined 223
Where Can I Meet Good Men? 225
More Thoughts on Meeting Men 230
Dating and Your Kids 232
A Few Hard Rules About Men and Kids 237
How to Introduce Your Boyfriend to Your Kids 241
A Special Note About Dating for Widowed Single Moms 244
Conclusion 249
Gratitude 253
Resources 254
Notes 255
Index 265
About the Author 273