Table of Contents
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction: I Used to Be Gay xv
A Note about Terminology xxi
Part 1 The Paradigm of Care
1 C. S. Lewis and His Gay Best Friend, Arthur 3
2 Evangelicalism before the Ex-Gay Movement 10
3 John Stott: Architect of the Paradigm of Care 20
4 A Positive Gospel Vision 31
Part 2 The Paradigm of Cure
5 The Birth of a Movement 39
6 "From Gay to Straight" 48
7 Conversion Therapies 59
8 The Ex-Gay Script 68
9 Fissures from the Beginning 85
10 The Movement Matures 99
11 Questioning the Paradigm 110
12 The Death of Cure 121
13 Postmortem 134
Part 3 The Rising Challenge to a Historical Ethic
14 Did We Get the Biblical Sexual Ethic Wrong? 151
15 Tackling the Argument from Cultural Distance 165
16 Is the Biblical Ethic Inherently Violent to Gay People? 179
Part 4 A Path Forward
17 Confronting the Walking Dead 189
18 Ending (Unintentional) Emotional Abuse 200
19 Picking Up the Ball We Dropped Forty Years Ago 215
20 Celibacy and Hope 229
Conclusion 243
Notes 247