My Everything: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise
My Everything: The Parent I Want to Be, The Children I Hope to Raise
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Overview
Einat Nathan is the mother of five children and a parenting expert and counselor with her own clinic. She first published her book (Haimsheli, by top publisher Kinneret Zmora Bitan) in 2018, and it became the national bestseller of the year across all categories in Israel, making her a national celebrity.
My Everything resonated because mothers read it, cried and smiled, and discovered a way to look at their children as independent people, not solely as an extension of who they are or as a calling card. Now translated into English, My Everything is a beautiful and comforting read that reminds mothers how to be patient with their children, to try to remain calm in an age of constant fearmongering, and to appreciate and accept each child as an individual, with their own quirks, gifts, and flaws.
Einat writes, "Parenthood is like a bungee jump. It's scary and fun, it makes you fly and often lets you down." This book isn't so much a parenting guide as an exploration of the complex emotional journey of being a parent, reminding us of the courage and energy it requires as well as acknowledging that no parent is perfect and at the end of the day, this relationship is about connection.
My Everything is a compassionate, loving answer to The Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother to teach children to be strong and independent. Part Conscious Parenting and part The Blessings of a Skinned Knee, this is a book that will transform how readers think about raising children, resonating across cultures.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9780306924057 |
|---|---|
| Publisher: | Hachette Books |
| Publication date: | 04/06/2021 |
| Sold by: | Hachette Digital, Inc. |
| Format: | eBook |
| File size: | 949 KB |
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Table of Contents
1 Parenthood: The True Story 1
Why parenthood is first of all about relationships
2 Children and Silence Don't Go Together 4
The stillbirth that made me the mother I am today
3 Your Child Is Not Your Calling Card 10
Children don't exist to make us proud or happy
4 When We Worry, We Miss Out 13
Why our anxieties are so unnecessary
5 How to Listen to Kids 19
And how to teach them to listen
6 Make Some Room for Dad 28
Things thatjathers do better
7 Sharing One Bed 33
Some babies need to sleep with their parents
8 Life's Goodbyes 38
At kindergarten, at bedtime: saying goodbye the right way
9 Growing Through Anger 44
Why tantrums are a developmental achievement and how to handle them
10 How to Talk to Them 50
Why we don't have the privilege of getting offended by our children
11 Let Boys Cry 56
The crying we castrate can turn into aggression
12 "Come On, Let's Go!" 59
What happens to them when we lose our patience
13 "Go On, Say Sorry" 64
How do you teach kids to acknowledge others' pain?
14 When Mom and Dad Fight 68
What do they see when they look at our relationship?
15 The Stork's Visit 73
A new baby in the family
16 Quarreling Is a Privilege 78
Especially when parents don't intervene
17 "I Love You Even Though I Hate You" 82
Encountering negative emotions in preparation for complex relationships
18 No Ordinary Greeting 88
Remember the original cause for happiness and celebrating it
19 The Child You Don't See 92
How do we recognize him and what does he need from us?
20 The One Who's Never Happy 97
Nothing makes her happy. How about you?
21 Agreements with Children: The Fine Print 103
How to reinforce their ability to keep promises
22 OMG, First Grade! 108
The complex emotional aspect in starting school
23 Growing a Backbone 113
The right way to create high self-esteem
24 Their Homework is Their Homework 119
And the most important lesson is to teach them to take responsibility
25 No to Spoiling 125
A child who receives redundant service won't turn into an independent adult
26 Losing Control Doesn't Have to Be a Loss 132
Respect them and their stupid decisions
27 Life with Screens 136
Dealing with the temptations of the world of screens
28 Sharing and Sharing 141
Telling our children about our lives is a daily task
29 How to Talk About Sexuality 145
And why it's never too early
30 The Social Minefield 151
How to support them in the arena we can't enter
31 Don't Break Your Heart 156
A parent's broken heart is one of the heaviest burdens
32 How to Protect Them from Bad Friends 160
Dealing with damaging social influences
33 Bullying Is the Limit 165
No child should face a bully alone
34 Talking About the Wolves 170
How to protect them against sexual harassment
35 Raising Boys Who Won't Sexually Harass 176
A parent has to have an educational agenda when it comes to sex
36 Where Has My Little One Gone? 181
Welcome to adolescence
37 When They Turn into Our Messy Drawer 186
What to do with the horror show they stage
38 Woo Them 189
Contraception, drugs, and alcohol: good relationships 189
39 Girl-Woman in Front of the Mirror 196
When the body changes and with it the patterns of behavior and thought
40 A Letter from an Imaginary Teenage Girl 202
If she would write to you honestly, this is what it would look like
41 Their Fat Is Also Theirs 207
Why it's your child's issue if he's fat
42 The Shaming Challenge 214
How to help them cope with shame
43 Beware of Competitiveness 218
A sense of self-worth shouldn't have just one foundation
44 My Ordinary Child 223
Teach them to deal with being regular
45 Saving Them from Instagram 228
Getting through adolescence on the social networks
46 Fathers and Sons, Mothers and Daughters 233
The way our same-sex children trigger our reactions
47 Timeless Quality Time 237
What the children actually remember from family experiences 237
48 Old-School Parenting 244
Things our own parents got right that are worth adopting
49 Divorce-Catastrophe or Crisis? 253
It's totally in your hands
50 A Guide for the Bad Mom 259
Yes, there are also bad days. This is how you cope
51 Eighteen Things I've Learned in Eighteen Years of Motherhood 264
A list of practical insights
52 A Word of Encouragement 272
Ultimately, that's what really matters
53 For Eight Years I Talked to a Child Who Looked Away 278
A mother's thoughts on her autistic son's sixteenth birthday
54 "What, My Love?" 285
Why there is no other way to raise children