It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand

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Overview

A New Resource for Those Experiencing Loss

With It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine offers a profound new approach to both the experience of grief and the way we help others who have endured tragedy. Having experienced grief from both sides—as both a therapist and as a woman who witnessed the accidental drowning of her beloved partner—Megan writes with deep insight about the unspoken truths of loss, love, and healing. She debunks the culturally prescribed goal of returning to a normal, "happy" life, replacing it with a far healthier middle path, one that invites us to build a life alongside grief rather than seeking to overcome it.

On this unabridged audio recording read by the author, Megan offers stories, research, life tips, and creative and mindfulness-based practices to guide us through an experience we all must face. With Megan’s gentle but direct guidance, you’ll learn:

• Why well-meaning advice, therapy, and spiritual wisdom so often end up making it harder for people in grief
• How challenging the myths of grief—doing away with stages, timetables, and unrealistic ideals about how grief should unfold—allows us to accept it as a mystery to be honored instead of a problem to solve
• Practical guidance for managing stress, improving sleep, and decreasing anxiety without trying to "fix" your pain

Many people who have suffered a loss feel judged, dismissed, and misunderstood by a culture that wants to "solve" grief. Megan writes, "Grief no more needs a solution than love needs a solution." It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a book for grieving people, those who love them, and all those seeking to love themselves—and each other—better.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781683640363
Publisher: Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date: 11/01/2017
Edition description: Unabridged
Sales rank: 1,001,868
Product dimensions: 6.80(w) x 6.50(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Megan Devine
Megan Devine is a writer, speaker, and advocate for emotional change on a cultural level. She holds a master’s in counseling psychology. Since the tragic loss of her partner in 2009, Megan has emerged as a bold new voice in the world of grief support. Her contributions via her site Refuge in Grief have helped create sanctuary for those in pain and encouragement for those who want to help. For more, visit refugeingrief.com.
Megan Devine
Megan Devine is a writer, speaker, and advocate for emotional change on a cultural level. She holds a master’s in counseling psychology. Since the tragic loss of her partner in 2009, Megan has emerged as a bold new voice in the world of grief support. Her contributions via her site Refuge in Grief have helped create sanctuary for those in pain and encouragement for those who want to help. For more, visit refugeingrief.com.

Table of Contents

Foreword Mark Nepo xi

Acknowledgments xiii

Introduction xv

Part I This Is All Just as Crazy as You Think It Is

Chapter 1 The Reality of Loss 3

Chapter 2 The Second Half of the Sentence: Why Words of Comfort Feel So Bad 13

Chapter 3 It's Not You, it's Us: Our Models of Grief Are Broken 25

Chapter 4 Emotional Illiteracy and the Culture of Blame 39

Chapter 5 The New Model of Grief 57

Part II What to Do with Your Grief

Chapter 6 Living in the Reality of Loss 67

Chapter 7 You Can't Solve Grief, but You Don't Have to Suffer 85

Chapter 8 How (and Why) to Stay Alive 101

Chapter 9 What Happened to My Mind? Dealing with Grief's Physical Side Effects 117

Chapter 10 Grief and Anxiety: Calming Your Mind When Logic Doesn't Work 133

Chapter 11 What Does Art Have to Do with Anything? 149

Chapter 12 Find Your Own Image of "Recovery" 165

Part III When Friends and Family Don't Know What to Do

Chapter 13 Should You Educate or Ignore Them? 181

Chapter 14 Rallying Your Support Team: Helping Them Help You 197

Part IV The Way Forward

Chapter 15 The Tribe of After: Companionship, True Hope, and the Way Forward 215

Chapter 16 Love Is the Only Thing That Lasts 229

Appendix: How to Help a Grieving Friend 237

Notes 243

Resources 247

About the Author 249

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