Table of Contents
Introduction Why You Need This Book 1
Part 1 When the Storm Hits
1 Two Kinds of Problems 9
2 A Delicious Irony 13
3 Can You Relate? 16
Part 2 Hang On
4 The Stages of Your Crisis 23
5 The Day of Trouble 27
6 Reacting to Hurt the Wrong Way 29
7 You Need Friends 31
8 Intimacy with Jesus 38
9 The Trial of Your Faith 43
10 An Outrageous Roller Coaster 48
11 When God Remains Anonymous 50
12 The Hurricane Is on Its Way 54
13 His History Is Our Destiny 59
14 A Way Where There Is No Way 62
15 Pleasure and Pain 66
16 Just Hang On 68
17 A Wrestling Match with an Angel 70
18 Job's Bitter Pill 73
19 Paul and His Thorn 76
20 An Imperfect Storm 78
21 When You Need to Regrip 80
22 Their Dark Nights End 83
23 Embracing Loneliness 85
24 God Is Near Nonetheless 88
25 Stuck in a Holding Pattern 90
26 The Uncertainty of the Cross 95
27 Resurrection Territory 98
Part 3 Let Go
28 The Art of Letting Go 103
29 Giving Up vs. Letting Go 106
30 The Fellowship of His Sufferings 109
31 How to Survive Your Crisis 114
32 Act as If 120
33 Psalm 23 Remixed 125
34 Outcome Independence 128
35 A Titanic Discovery 133
36 Passing through Fire 137
37 The Breaking of God 142
38 Stay in Your Lane 145
39 Tick Your Boxes 147
40 Walking in the Darkness 150
41 Forgiving Others 154
42 Hurt People Hurt People 157
43 God's Pruning Shears 160
44 Peace in the Storm 162
45 Don't Believe Everything You Think 164
46 Cognitive Distortions 166
47 Don't Look at the Wall 170
48 The Hidden Destroyer 174
49 Staying Detached 176
50 Abandoning Fix-It Mode 179
51 When God Unhides Himself 182
52 The Story in Our Head 187
53 Be Still and Know 190
54 Just Breathe 193
55 Mountain Lion Energy 195
56 God's Waiting Room 201
57 Blowing Hot and Cold 206
58 The Tears God Keeps 208
59 Encourage Yourself in the Lord 212
60 Six Affirmations 215
61 How to Outsource Your Worry 217
62 A Wall of Reminders 224
63 The Battle Is the Lord's 228
64 Do You Love Your Life? 233
65 Making Jesus First 237
66 The Real Pandemic They Don't Want You to Know About 240
67 Look Up, Not Down 244
68 When God Delays 246
69 Reframing Rejection 248
70 Living in the End Result 251
71 Take Nothing Personally 254
72 A Recipe for the Desperate 258
73 Stop This, Start That 263
74 Notes to Myself (Excerpts from My Journal) 271
75 The Pieces Are Alive 277
76 Be Resilient 280
77 Work on Yourself 283
78 There's No Fix-It Plan 287
79 In the Good Hands of God 290
80 Give Up Control 296
Part 4 As the Clouds Lift
81 Invaluable Lessons 301
82 The Outcome 313
83 Calm, Cool, and Collected 315
84 A Special Word to Christian Workers 318
Appendix I Who Brought Your Trial? 325
Appendix II Next Steps 330
Acknowledgments 331
Notes 332
About the Author 341
