Table of Contents

Part 1 the hiding 11

1 are you a good girl in hiding? 15

2 chasing expectation: hiding behind her good performance 24

3 my not-so-extreme makeover: hiding behind her good reputation 38

4 with a wink and a smile: hiding behind her fake "fine" 49

5 martha and my many things: hiding behind her acts of service 59

6 the rule follower: hiding behind her spiritual disciplines 67

7 can't fall apart: hiding behind her strength and responsibility 78

8 picket fences: hiding behind her comfort zone 88

9 when it gets ugly: hiding behind her indifference 97

10 hide-and-seek: game over 108

Part 2 the finding 123

11 receive: on truth and trusting 127

12 remain: on quiet and time 141

13 respond: on worship and service 152

14 remember: on setting your mind 161

Part 3 the freedom of being found 169

15 safe, even when it hurts 171

16 safe, even in failure 182

17 safe, even when it all goes wrong 197

18 safe, even when you don't feel safe 209

small group leader's guide 223

notes 251

acknowledgments 255