After the Death of a Child: Living with Loss through the Years
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After the Death of a Child: Living with Loss through the Years
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Overview
After a child dies, the parent's world changes entirely. Years later, this new world has changed the parents. The exact nature of this change—the long-term effects of the death—illuminates the nature of the bond between parents and children.
Ann Finkbeiner lost her son in a train accident when he was 18. Several years later, she noticed she was feeling better and wondered whether this feeling was what was meant by "recovery." As a science writer, she read the psychological, sociological, and psychiatric research into parental bereavement. And as a bereaved parent, she asked hard questions of thirty parents whose child had died at least five years before, of all causes and at all ages.
In this book, Finkbeiner combines the research and the parents' answers into a description of the parents' new lives. The parents talk about their changed marriages and their changed relationships with their other children, with their friends and relatives. They talk about their attempts to make sense of the death and about their drastically changed priorities. And most important, they talk about how they still love their children, how the child seems to see through their eyes and live through their actions. They move on through their grief, they get on with their lives, but they never let go of their children. Their wisdom is here presented to any in need of it.
Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9780801859144 |
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| Publisher: | Johns Hopkins University Press |
| Publication date: | 07/14/1998 |
| Edition description: | Reprint |
| Pages: | 288 |
| Sales rank: | 688,038 |
| Product dimensions: | 6.12(w) x 9.25(h) x 0.83(d) |
| Age Range: | 18 Years |
About the Author
Table of Contents
IntroductionChapter 1. At FirstChapter 2. Marge Ford's MarriageChapter 3. Fathers and Mothers, Husbands and Wives: Changes in the MarriageChapter 4. Brandt Jones's FamilyChapter 5. Brothers and Sisters, Sons and Daughters: Changes in the Relationship with Other ChildrenChapter 6. Leight Johnson and His Fellow ManChapter 7. Janet Wright's Bad FriendsChapter 8. Changes Toward Other PeopleChapter 9. Chris ReedChapter 10. On GuiltChapter 11. Delores Shoda and the Uncertainty of LifeChapter 12. Job's Children: Changes Toward GodChapter 13. Diana Moores' WorldChapter 14. The Zero Point: Changes in PerspectiveChapter 15. Anne Perkins' PrioritiesChapter 16. Surface Ditties and Carpe Diem: Changes in PrioritiesChapter 17. Walter LevinChapter 18. The Nature of the BondChapter 19. One Person Now: The Continuining TrajectorySuggestions for Further ReadingWhat People are Saying About This
The book is beautifully written and deeply felt... It can be of value for bereaved parents who can by helped by it to understand their pain and sorrow and to understand the different ways fathers and mothers grieve. It should be required reading for professionals who would help bereaved parents and who would understand how deeply invested are parents in their children.
— Robert S. Weiss, University of Massachusetts, Boston
This book is just excellent. Ann Finkbeiner has found a way to investigate her own grief and perhaps find some resolution to this difficult task of grieving. Thousands of bereaved parents and professionals will benefit from her work."
— Therese Goodrich, former executive director of The Compassionate Friends, member of Bereaved Parents of USA
By focusing on the long-term impact of losing a child, Ann Finkbeiner has raised issues and concerns that are rarely addressed. Her book is thought-provoking, deeply moving, and filled with insight and hope. I recommend it enthusiastically to parents and professionals.
— Camille Wortman, State University of New York at Stony Brook
This book is just excellent. Ann Finkbeiner has found a way to investigate her own grief and perhaps find some resolution to this difficult task of grieving. Thousands of bereaved parents and professionals will benefit from her work.—Therese Goodrich, former executive director of The Compassionate Friends, member of Bereaved Parents of USA
The book is beautifully written and deeply felt . . . It can be of value for bereaved parents who can by helped by it to understand their pain and sorrow and to understand the different ways fathers and mothers grieve. It should be required reading for professionals who would help bereaved parents and who would understand how deeply invested are parents in their children.—Robert S. Weiss, University of Massachusetts, Boston
By focusing on the long-term impact of losing a child, Ann Finkbeiner has raised issues and concerns that are rarely addressed. Her book is thought-provoking, deeply moving, and filled with insight and hope. I recommend it enthusiastically to parents and professionals.—Camille Wortman, State University of New York at Stony Brook