Table of Contents
Introduction: The Quest for Freedom 11
Part 1 Building a Vision 17
1 How Did We Get This Way? 21
2 What Kind of People Pleaser Am I? 28
3 How to Spot a Counterfeit 39
Part 2 Fear Factors 47
4 I Need You to Like Me: Fear of Rejection 51
5 I Need You to Not Be Angry with Me: Fear of Conflict 59
6 I Need You to Notice Me: Fear of Invisibility 69
7 I Need You to Affirm Me: Fear of Inadequacy 76
8 I Need You to Need Me: Fear of Irrelevance 85
Part 3 Building Blocks for World-Glass People Pleasing 93
9 Building Block #1-Being Proactive: Take Personal Responsibility 97
10 Building Block #2-Staying Connected: Access the Value of Relationships 105
11 Building Block #3-Building Confidence: See Yourself Accurately 114
12 Building Block #4-Crafting Integrity: Live an Honest Life 123
13 Building Block #5-Strengthening Communication: Master the Tools of Connection 131
14 Building Block #6-Fostering Curiosity: Maintain a Thirst for Wonder 140
15 Building Block #7-Sharpening Focus: Pay Attention without Distraction 149
16 Building Block #8-Practicing Self-Care: Invest in Yourself 156
17 Building Block #9-Developing Gratefulness: Search for the Positive 164
18 Building Block #10-Keeping Perspective: Accept Reality 172
Part 4 How to Change 179
19 The Secret to Changing Everything 181
20 The Faith Chapter 188
21 A Long-Term Strategy for Success 195
The Final Word 201
Acknowledgments 203
Notes 205