Table of Contents
I'm Sorry You're Here … No Wait, I Take That Back 11
Part 1 Finding Solid Ground
1 Rubbish We Believe When the Poop Hits the Fan 23
It's all my fault, God's angry, and now he's vanished
2 The Truth We Need When Our World Is Rocked 36
Life doesn't have to be pain-free to be full
3 Practice Makes Better, Not Perfect 54
Part 2 Learning to Breathe Again
4 Choose Brave 65
It doesn't have to be big
5 Trust God 81
He's got impeccable credentials
6 Find Community 99
Thriving is a team sport
7 Be Vulnerable 114
Stiff upper lips need ChapStick
8 Embrace the Journey 128
Even the detours, diversions, and dead ends
9 Practice Gratitude 145
For the rubble, not just the rubies
10 Reach Out 162
It might just save you
Part 3 Keep Calm and Breathe On
11 Now What? 181
Have tools, will travel
The Thriver's Manifesto 191
Gifts 193
From me to you, with love
Resources 195
Where can I find help with …?
Acknowledgments 197
Because I can't fit a hundred names on the cover
Notes 201
Who said what, where
About the Author 205
Niki's sensible(ish) bio