Table of Contents

Part 1 The hiding 11

1 Are you a good girl in hiding? 15

2 Chasing expectation 24

Hiding behind her good performance

3 My not-so-extreme makeover 38

Hiding behind her good reputation

4 With a wink and a smile 49

Hiding behind her fake "fine"

5 Martha and my many things 59

Hiding behind her acts of service

6 The rule follower 67

Hiding behind her spiritual disciplines

7 Can't fall apart 78

Hiding behind her strength and responsibility

8 Picket fences 88

Hiding behind her comfort zone

9 When it gets ugly 97

Hiding behind her indifference

10 Hide-and-seek 108

Game over

Part 2 The finding 123

11 Receive 127

On truth and trusting

12 Remain 141

On quiet and time

13 Respond 152

On worship and service

14 Remember 161

On setting your mind

Part 3 The freedom of being found 169

15 Safe, even when it hurts 171

16 Safe, even in failure 182

17 Safe, even when it all goes wrong 197

18 Safe, even when you don't feel safe 209

Small group leader's guide 223

Notes 251

Acknowledgments 255