Table of Contents
Foreword Dr. Barbara Steffens 9
Foreword Dr. Stefanie Carries 11
Acknowledgments 13
Part 1 First Things First: How Betrayal Has Impacted You
1 You Are Not Alone 19
2 Heartbreaking Loss 24
3 Shell-Shocked 43
4 The Dirty Dozen 52
5 It's a Cryin' Shame 67
Part 2 Unpacking the Effects of Early Trauma
6 A House Divided 83
7 Digging into Our Roots 102
8 Dangerous Liaisons: Understanding Betrayal and Sex Addiction 118
9 How He Can Help You Heal 131
Part 3 How Betrayal Trauma Impacts Your Brain, Mind, Body, Spirit, and Sexuality
10 When a Diamond's Not a Girl's Best Friend 143
11 Your Body Guard 164
12 Quick on the Trigger 179
13 Where Is God Now? 191
14 Remember When Sex Was Safe and Skydiving Was Dangerous? 204
Part 4 Taking Steps toward Relational Safety
15 "No" Is a Complete Sentence 221
16 Gaslighting, Deception, and Blame … Oh My! 234
17 To Tell the Truth 249
Part 5 Stepping into Empowered Living
18 Making Yourself a Guilt-Free Priority 267
19 A Change of Heart 284
20 It's Never Too Late for a Rewrite 292
Resources 309
Notes 315
Selected Bibliography 327