Table of Contents
Acknowledgments 11
Introduction: Why Your Kids Work You 13
Your kids can read you like a book, and they're master readers.
1 Why Your Kids Do What They Do 19
Everything has a beginning, and so does misbehavior.
2 Why You-and Only You-Will Do 35
Why your child wants your attention, needs your attention, and was programmed to fall in love with you.
3 Why You Do What You Do 45
How your background and experiences influence your parenting more than you know.
4 Programming Misbehavior 63
How you unwittingly pave the way for your child to misbehave.
5 The Only Way to Rear a Child 77
Why being in healthy authority over your kid is the best way to fly.
6 Getting behind Your Child's Eyes 91
What your child's life mantra is, how it developed, and how it affects his or her behavior.
7 The Four Stages of Misbehavior 117
What they are, how they start, and how to identify where your child is on the spectrum.
8 "Look at Me" 131
What an attention getter is and how to get one to pay attention to you in the right way.
9 "There's a New Sheriff in Town" 143
What a power-driven child is and how to turn that drive for power in a positive direction.
10 Discipline 101 151
What it is (and isn't), why punishment never works, and why RD is the way to roll.
11 Time-Tested Strategies That Really Work 169
Practice may not make perfect, but it leads to behavioral change.
Conclusion: Transformation Guaranteed 185
You don't have to be perfect. You don't have to have a perfect kid. You just need to walk the road of life together.
Bonus Section #1: Ask the Expert 191
What would Dr. Leman have done in those situations in chapter 1? Find out here.
Bonus Section #2: Q&A with Dr. Kevin Leman: Thinking and Acting Your Way to Behavioral Change 211
The hottest questions parents ask … and expert, practical advice you can live by.
Notes 257
About Dr. Kevin Leman 259
Resources Dr. Kevin Leman 261