Table of Contents
Part 1 Yes, You Can Change Your Marriage
1 The Good News about a Bad Marriage 11
Part 2 The "We're Unhappy but Willing to Work on It" Marriage
2 "Take Your Marriage Out Back and Shoot It!" 25
Week 1 Rebuild from the Ground Up 26
3 "I'm Wrong, I'm Sorry, I'll Change" 38
Week 2 The Letter of Responsibility 45
Week 3 Do the Top Two 51
4 Where the Rubber Meets the Road: One Couple's Journey through Weeks 2 and 3 53
5 A Breath of Fresh, Positive Air 65
Week 4 The Power of Positivity 69
6 A Little Bit of Romance Goes a Long Way 78
Week 5 Bring Back the Romance 81
7 Conflict-Resolving Skills That Work 90
Week 6 Learn How to Fight 92
8 Heal from Your Past Pain 103
Week 7 The Past Pain Transfer Letters 110
Week 8 The Follow-Up Talks 116
9 The Pain Is Gone and We're Moving On: One Couple's Journey through Weeks 7 and 8 118
10 Forgive Each Other 129
Week 9 The Letters of Forgiveness 134
Week 10 Read and Follow-Up Talks 136
11 "I Forgive You": One Couple's Journey through Weeks 9 and 10 140
12 The Code Queen and the Clam 151
Week 11 Make Your Needs Clear 157
13 To Be Soul Mates, You Have to Be "Need Mates" 162
Week 12 Meet Your Top Three Needs 165
Part 3 The "My Spouse Won't Change" Marriage
14 "I Married a Stick and Now I'm Stuck" 179
15 Your Stick's Last Chance 190
16 Rock Your Stick's World 204
Part 4 The "My Spouse Has Sinned Big Time" Marriage
17 Make Your Spouse's Serious Sin the Only Issue 219
18 Get Angry and Stay Angry 230
19 How to Heal from a Spouse's Serious Sin 241
Part 5 With God and a Proven Plan, It's Time to Change Your Marriage
20 Killing Your Goliath 261
Frequently Asked Questions267
Appendix: Beginning a Relationship with God 273