Table of Contents
Section I Getting It Right
Introduction: Stepdad: Hero or Hostile Takeover? 13
1 Conquering Stepdad Mountain 19
2 Sex Stuff: Did You Marry a Wife (Sex Partner) or a Mother (Business Partner)? 35
3 Understanding Her Kids (Part 1): Loss 51
4 Understanding Her Kids (Part 2): Loyalty 63
Section II Getting Smart: The Stepparenting Team
5 Mom Smart (Part 1): He Can't Do It Without You 85
6 Mom Smart (Part 2): Pitfalls and Good Intentions 103
7 Getting the Socks Picked Up: Parenting 101 119
8 Meet Your Ex-Husband-in-Law: Friend or Foe? 135
9 Your Kids: What Do They Need? 153
10 Hugging Your Stepdaughter, Stepsibling Attractions, and the Awkward Issues of Stepfamily Sexuality 169
11 Keeping Special Days Special: Holidays, Vacations, and Your Stepfamily 191
12 Romancing Your Wife 205
13 Adult Stepchildren 219
14 Should We Have an "Ours" Baby? 229
15 Heroes by Choice 237
Notes 241